Kursus Kahwin

One of the requirements in this country for couples to get married is to attend the Pre-Wedding Course.

Every year you hear that the syllabus or the module of the course will change, from a 2 day course, to a 2 days 2 nights course where you have to participate and attend the qiyamullail at nights. Because December was just packed with weddings and other stuff, I called up JAIS (Jabatan Agama Islam Selangor) and asked them whether the syllabus will change in 2011. They assured me it was still going to be the same 2 day course where you basically just sit and listen. So, we decided to go in January 2011.

We decided to go to the one organised by JAIS, because it's just in Shah Alam which is 10 minutes from home, and Kakmira and Adri went there for their pre-wedding course and they enjoyed it. I downloaded the form here and faxed it from my office. I had to forge Aliff's signature because, well, he comes home too late for me to wait up for him just to sign the form. And I can't wait until the weekend because it becomes full very fast. So, if anyone wants to do their pre-wedding course there, you have to submit your forms atleast 2-3 weeks before the date you have chosen.

The date we chose were on the 22nd and 23rd January (the courses are only on Saturdays and Sundays).

So last weekend, me and Aliff had to sacrifice our "waking up late on weekends" to attend the pre-wedding course. Registration on the first day starts at 745am - 815am. Being me, I like to arrive early, so I woke Aliff up at 700am. Although it's just 10 minutes away and there will definitely be no traffic congestion as it was on a weekend, I purposedly told him to pick me up as early as 715am because I was anticipating the 15 minutes that he's going to be late, and the other 5-10 minutes of filling in petrol etc. He picked me up at 730am, stopped for gas and we arrived close to 800am. Imagine if I had asked him to come at 730am :)

The first day was interesting. Although the topics of the lecture was quite boring, but the lecturers were sooooooo funny that I hurt my mouth from laughing too much. Seriously. These people may be ustaz, but they are quite open and liberal about husband and wife relationship, if you know what I mean. The food was nice, nothing to complain. They served breakfast, lunch and tea. The first day ended at about 500pm.

The second day was not as fun as the first day, but still bearable. The lecturers on the second day was not as funny so there were times I almost fell asleep. So, I opened my Wedding Binder and started calculating the budgets and cutting where necessary - keeping up with my motto of "sticking to the budget". But there was one lecturer from Kementerian Kesihatan, who talked about health and STDs and pregnancy and giving birth....this lecture was very VISUAL. He showed us videos and pictures which brought back everyone's attention from the lack of during the prior lecture. One of the most impact-ful (is there such word?) video would be the video of giving birth. YIKES. Makes you think twice of getting pregnant and giving birth.....sakitnyaaaaaaaaa....and all the blood...alamak. It's ok. I am going to persevere. If I get pregnant, I am still planning to go for the natural birth. Kalau mati pun mati syahid kan?

Anyway, although there were some boring lectures, it was definitely a fun experience. The only downside is they did not allow us to eat with our other half...booo. But me and Aliff cheating sikit ... the did not put us in different rooms to eat, and there's actually no signage saying where the girls or boys eat. But there were 2 buffet tables. So, faham-faham lah. Me and Aliff sat at the end of the girls/boys area, so we got to seat next to each other. Hahahaha. It was my plan lahhh. Aliff penakut. Ahaha. A good suggestion would be that you go with a friend who is also getting married, if you don't plan to make friends, like me :) Other than that, anyone who plans to attend the requisite pre-wedding course, I would definitely recommend the one organised by JAIS.

The 2 day course was enlightening. Ofcourse there's the feeling of losing your weekend, but it sheds some light on getting married, especially the procedures. There's so many things that you have to do (tests, approvals, getting witnesses) to get married in Malaysia. It's not just saying "Aku terima nikahnya". Ahaha. So, we have to get all that done before Aliff goes to Jakarta, or it'll be too late and we'll be rushing.

NEXT: HIV Test.


Toodles.